Margy and Binky were two clients that came for help at Project Place. They wanted to deal with the violent outbursts in their marriage. They lived just at the poverty level and had several children. After several sessions with them, Margy disclosed the root of what she thought was the problem: several years before she had become pregnant and was afraid to tell her husband, not being sure if the child was his or not. After six months the fact was discovered by Binky and he became violent and punched her in the stomach while in a rage, with the thought of killing the child. That night Margy had a still birth in her bed. Several weeks later it was discovered through medical treatment that she was carrying another child. One of the twins had survived. This child was aborted.
Both Margy and Binky spoke to the children as if they were in the room in order to deal with their feelings. What came out of them was a torrent of grief. I had never had an experience before of dealing with such pain in someone. It filled the room. Both Margy and Binky wept and sobbed as they talked to the children. I could not sit in my seat, but as I recall, fell on the floor and wept with them. The pain and horror of what had happened was out in the room and the grief was incredibly painful.
My training taught me that by getting the feelings out and in the open, they would be reconciled, dealt with by the client. But there was no dealing with this! I could not talk because of the grief and pain. More and more came out until you thought you were being consumed. If I had only known that there was true forgiveness and reconciliation back then. Lord forgive me and bless Margy and Binky wherever they are.